I'll admit to being startled.
Perhaps a big difference is that I don't see Monday night as 'my night' or 'me time'. I see it as 'our time'. There are lots of other little spaces I find for myself. This was/is my time to interact with real live humans. It's hard to build friendships and maintain them now that I'm a mother. It's far too easy to go for weeks without seeing a friend or talking on the phone if there isn't a regular rhythm to it. I hate that feeling, feeling like there are people who are special to me but not part of my life.
So, yeah, I want it to continue. I can host if need be, since my place is quieter than Jen's with everyone out at Judo til 9.
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I'll still come. This just came as such a shock to me and I have been thrown into quite the tailspin over it.
I agree with you, Sarah. This was the sort of Me/Our time that enriched me and helped refuel my batteries. I looked forward to this social interaction and collaboration without little ones nipping at my heels. I can go whole days without hearing another adult voice. It makes one feel very lonely and isolated, especially in the winter.
I am happy to host as well, but yes, it is louder here until after bedtime.
There ya go.
I hear what you're saying, but I guess the night is/was different things to different people. For me, it was carved out of a busy week when, before there was a craft night, I had no designated night to be for me - weeks could go by without any break from active mommy-hood. So for me, that night was created specifically to have a reliable night away from those responsibilities.
Now that the night is established as "mine", I have for some time now often kind of wished to be doing something different - not every week, mind you, but often enough. So finally I recognized that the best thing would be to hang on to my night, but allow myself the freedom to do with it what I wished that particular week.
Good to know it's still a "go", for those who are inclined to be crafty on Monday evening!
I'm sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings. I do know what it is like to be with little ones all day long and how valuable adult contact is. I guess I sometimes just want to be alone on my free night. Our lives are so full right now that I'm on interaction overload. I am still happy to host once a month. Sorry again if I upset anyone.
It certainly is not my intention to purposefully cause hurt feelings for anyone. Monday nights really ARE the only time I have just for me. But I don't feel that I should have to clarify further...I really do just need time for other things sometimes. I still like crafting too, and that being said--I like the idea of once per month or something.
I have thoroughly enjoyed my Monday evenings, actually using the creative part of my brain, and getting to know you crafting ladies a little better.
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Crafts is at my place today, 7pm, all are invited.
I wont be there, but thanks again Sarah for the videos. I think we will be curling up to watch a lot this week. P.S. The porridge sounds delicious.
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